Healing Modality - Sadness & Grieving

Different Emotions Affect Different Organs In The Body
TCM practitioners have spent over a thousand years correlating emotions and their effect on different organs in the body. These practitioners have found that treating the proper organ at the physical level improves our health at the other levels.

THE PHYSICAL LEVEL OF HEALING

Since we are treating grieving & sadness, we have to focus on the lungs and respiration. The lungs, being the seat of grief & sadness, need to be detoxified.

The lungs function to:

1. Extract oxygen from the air that we breathe and exhale out waste carbon dioxide, since the body does not store oxygen, the importance of proper respiration is paramount;
2. Control the condition of general body hair;
3. Adjust body temperature through perspiration and shivering;
4. Disperse body fluids throughout outermost layers of the body;
5. Control cellular respiration;
6. Send body fluids to the kidneys;
7. Control healthy functioning of sweating, by scattering water vapor;
8. Assist heart with circulation of blood.

Healthy lungs are associated with:
1. smooth and regular respiration;
2. an acute sense of smell;
3. even body temperature;
4. good protection from external cold, damp and wind.

Lung impairment can physically manifest as:
1. general weakness and fatigue;
2. pallid skin, poor complexion;
3. susceptibility to disease (catching a cold);
4. retention of urine;
5. low vitality, insufficient metabolism;
6. impaired sense of smell, clogged or runny nose;
7. abnormal sweating;
8. coughing, congestion;
9. skin conditions, allergies, rough or dry skin;
10. swelling, edema in upper part of body (face).

Our goal at this level of healing is to help you remove offending toxins from your body and re-establish optimum balance of your body's systems.

Diet
At the physical level, we have to start healing our body through diet, herbal and vitamin supplements, deep breathing, and body work and exercise.

In the Western world, we have to take many preventive measures because of our lack of nutrition. Supplements to our diet are important because of our lifestyles and the depletion of minerals in the soil. There are many supplements to choose of which we will recommend a few important ones. Firstly, let us state that balance is the key.

We will use the Chinese concept of Yin and Yang to discuss how diet can effect balance. Yin and yang are ancient Chinese philosophical terms with very simple meaning. Originally the terms were used to designate the two slopes of the mountain. The sunny side was Yang and the shady side was Yin. Later their meaning broadened to include all opposites.

The introduction of 'Yin' and 'Yang' is important, in order to understand the male/female energy. The Mother Earth is Yin (female). The air/sky or heaven is Yang (male). Part of our healing will entail creating Heaven on Earth by using those energies. (This is also spoken of in Christian beliefs.)

Chinese medicine maintains that illness is a result from the loss of equilibrium between Yin and Yang. In simple terms Yin represents "cold" syndromes while Yang represents "hot" syndromes. Lack of energy is representative of an excess Yin state. Rage or hyperactivity is representative of an excess Yang state. Eating the right foods can help the body regain its balance. When you become more aware of your body's condition you will be able to choose the right foods to maintain its balance.

EXAMPLE: Fish is Yin. Poultry and cow are Yang. Vegetables and fruits are Yin. Dairy products are Yang. Some herbs are Yang, but most are Yin. (Ginseng and ginger are Yang.)

Herbal & Vitamin Supplements
Many health food stores have combinations of herbs that will help detoxify the lungs. We recommend:

• Chinese Tiao He Cleanse (by Nature's Sunshine) - helps eliminate toxins from the bowel, reducing toxins absorbed by the liver
• Enviro-Detox (by Nature's Sunshine) - helps detoxify the eliminatory organs - liver, kidneys, lungs, bowels, and skin
• Vitamins C, E, B, beta-carotene
• flaxseed, evening primrose oil - contain fatty acids used for inflammation control
• Whole Leaf Aloe Concentrate (by Sacred Mountain) - detoxifies and normalizes metabolism
• Colloidal Minerals (with Fulvic Acid) (by Sacred Mountain) - provides minerals and vitamins needed by the lungs for detoxification with the added benefit of electrolytes

Deep Breathing
Breathing can alter your body's physical state. Relaxation is an important step towards healing. The simplicity of deep breathing makes this process easier. Inhale through the nose and draw as much air as is possible. Once the lungs are completely filled, hold the lungs full for a count of 5 (five). After a count of five, exhale from the very bottom of your lungs through your mouth. Do this 3 times. To start, this breathing should be done three times daily with an increasing count.

Body Work & Exercise
Body work is important for unlocking the storage places of stress and issues (toxins). Emotional issues flow through channels in our body called Meridians. Have you ever noticed how you get knots in your back when you are stressed out? These knots store toxic chemicals and represent blockages in the circulation and the flow of Qi. Simple body message can remove the blockages. The pleasant feeling you experience after a good message is the result of cleared blockages.

We recommend massage therapy and especially rolfing. Rolfing (a deep muscular massage) is a terrific method to help cleanse muscle and connective tissue where our 'toxic' issues are stored. Additionally, start a regimen of walking for short distances with distances increasing as strength returns.

Certain 'cleansing reactions', cause by released toxins, may occur such as headaches, diarrhea, muscle or joint pain, fatigue, to name a few. This is generally a good indication that the body is successfully being cleansed of impurities. Consult your physician if conditions persist.

Common Causes for Increased Risks of Lung Toxicity

• Poor diet with deficiency in vitamins and minerals.
• Prolonged use of food and drug additives.
• Prolonged exposure to environmental toxins.
• Regular, excessive consumption of alcohol.
• Lack of proper exercise.

THE EMOTIONAL LEVEL OF HEALING

The LUNGS

• Color - White
• Senses - Smell (Nose is external aperture.),Skin
• Healing sound - SSSSS

They say laughter is the best medicine for good reason. Our emotional states affect our physical body. The lungs represent how we connect to the world. When healthy, we can maintain structures in our dealings with others; when impaired, we feel a sense of alienation, experience prolonged grief, and have difficulty coping with loss and change. Through visualization you can engage in a process of healing yourself emotionally. Bio-feedback allows your mind at an emotional level to change your bodies physical state. In this section we will give you two techniques for doing this.

We are addressing grieving and sadness which is stored in the lungs. Excessive grieving can lead to many lung ailments. Most breathing disorders are relevant to the negative emotions of excess grieving and sadness.

You will find the validity of the 10 stages of grieving in almost any significant loss. In order to replace the toxicity of the negative emotions with the positive emotions of courage, letting go, etc., we will lead you to the Healing Sound Techniques.

Healing Sound Technique

1. Find a comfortable, quiet place to sit with your hands in your lap (right over left). Find the location of your lungs from the chart. Connect mentally to the location of the lungs because the use of the healing sound and light for the lungs will be employed. The better the connection, the quicker the results will be.

2. Practice your breathing as earlier explained. Bring your breath deeply (through your nose) to the bottom of your lungs and link up mentally to your lungs. As you start to exhale, tilt you head back with teeth clinched, tongue to the roof of your mouth.

3. Exhale and sub-vocally (heard only internally) say SSSSS. You may want to orally practice this sound for a while. The sound is like the "s" sound in sizzle. Once you have used this sound for a while, it becomes easy to remember.

4. Repeat this technique at least 4 times. You may do it as many times as you wish but in multiples of 3. Your are ventilating the toxicity in your lungs so the more you practice the greater the results. Practice it also during times of sadness and grieving.

The next technique will be coupled with the healing sound. Each organ has an associated color. The color for the lungs is white. We will use two things to impact the lungs--the smile-down and healing light. If your loss was a person, think about a funny or humorous event you witnessed with them. Just thinking about this event causes you to laugh. This is the smiling energy you'll use to help your lungs. Begin this technique after doing the healing sound for your lungs.

Smiling Energy and Healing Light Techniques

1. Using the same breathing technique, take that smiling energy after a deep breath and hold the breath while smiling down into the lungs. 2. Exhale through the mouth. Smile down into the lungs as many times as possible, at least 3 times. Sense the energy in your lungs. 3. Use the same breathing technique and inhale through the nose and breathe deeply into your lungs, hold, and look down into your lungs and see it being covered with waves of white light. Do this at least 3 times.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO END YOUR TECHNIQUES BY MOVING ANY EXCESS ENERGY INTO THE NAVEL.

On completion of the above listed techniques perform the following:

• Stand, and walk around for a while.
• As you are walking, use your hands and your thoughts to move the energy from your lungs into your naval area.

These are some basic techniques that can detox the lungs and remove the sadness and grieving stored there. With daily practice you'll find sadness and grieving lifting and the triggers that used to key your sadness and grieving no longer working. Practice becoming the observer.

THE MENTAL LEVEL OF HEALING

The mind can be a great builder or destroyer. The system you came out of helped create destructive mind sets which must be changed. Our brain is much like a computer. The programming from our past creates predictable results. That programming starts at birth and continues until we die. For grieving, the mind set, or programming, is based upon those experiences of life. Those recordings of our past experiences will play a major role in our perceptions of events and behavior. When there is another similar event, our recordings of past begin to play, and we have a predictable outcome. Part of our programming perpetuates our grieving. We also see ourselves as victims of all things-childhood, parents, husbands, wives, bosses, society, and events. We learn to react to those things in a very predictable way.

Life brings us gains and losses. Excessive grieving helps us to dwell in the coulds, shoulds, might have beens, etc.--things that are the way they are. The mental game of reliving our past and dwelling on our losses prevents us from embracing our gains and future gains. For every beginning there has to be an end. The mental aspect of grieving has to do with embracing those steps or stages and knowing what we're grieving.

Reprogramming The "Old Tapes"
Unfortunately, we can't just erase the old tapes, but we can write over them. As an example, If I have a mind set of lack, I have lack. If I believe I'm unloved, then I'm unloved, etc, etc. If I believe I've suffered a great loss, then I've suffered a great loss. Grieving is a normal human function. Excessive grieving is not a normal human function. If we keep living our past, our future becomes very predictable--alot more of what we've had. We have to change our perspectives of the past, in order to clear our future. Has someone's dying actually been a good thing? Has a great loss--divorce, bankruptcy, etc. ever been a good thing? These tremendous losses can be important because they traumatize us enough to change--to do something differently.

As earlier stated, the mind is a powerful thing. Our experiences helped create our knowing, so we have to change our experiences--new experiences that have positive outcomes. We start by learning not to react to the old tapes and substituting new tapes in place of the old. Rather than reacting, practice becoming the observer of the old tapes and place stoppers in the old tape. You can control that tape by consciously stopping the internal dialogue and placing another tape to be played. The new tape has to do with a different perspective and outcome--through visualization. Create the event mentally by seeing it with a filter. This filter cleans out the old tape and leaves only the event as it is, without the tainted projections, assumptions, interpretations, or justification. The event just is!

With grieving we usually have less mental power. Because of our grieving, our programs are tainted and have little happiness or joy. Create a picture of the event(s) with different outcomes--then use positive affirmations. "I choose to break free of my past and experience life from a positive perspective."

THE SPIRITUAL LEVEL OF HEALING

With grieving most people are disconnected from that spiritual link. Anger toward God (Spirit) is common. How could God allow such a terrible thing to happen? How could God take this (these) from me? Why doesn't God take this pain from me like I asked Him? God has always been there, but we're the one that has closed that channel. The things that have wounded us, the conditions we are in, and our negative experiences were not God's punishment. God's love for us is so great that he/she has allowed us to live out our issues without interference. The wounds are from man, not God. The parents didn't know that to the child they were God. They fell short and so does man. By doing this work you can link up with God and carry a lighter burden. Ritualize more things in your life--giving thanks for what you do have, and you'll be led to Grace. With practice and more technique you'll discover and be led into the Stillness.